Beginner Cam Model Guide: Part II

II: How to control the dialogue

Controlling the dialogue is one of the more powerful tools models have at their disposal when it comes to making money as a cam model. While the majority of models completely ignore this fact, the most successful models are perfectly aware of it. 

In this chapter, we’re gonna delve a little deeper into this topic, show you a couple of examples on how to take the initiative in a conversation, and how to maintain control during the course of the dialogue. 

The best models out there are master manipulators. They know how to manipulate their guests into doing whatever they want them to do. 

To achieve this, first you need to adopt the mindset we have discussed in Part I of this guide. 

You know, the one about projecting success at all times, being communicative and engaging with your audience.

That will serve as the basis for everything else you will be doing in your quest of becoming a master manipulator.

Once you got that down, the next thing you need to do is let go of the self defeating entitled mindset many models seem to adopt in this line of work. If you never felt that way, good for you!

However a large portion of models like to think that they’re owed something. 

They’re owed by the users, only for being on camera looking pretty.

They don’t really engage in conversation with anyone other than the users who spend money on them. 

This is a terrible mindset, and most models don’t even realize that they’re the ones sabotaging their own success!   

Guests don’t owe you anything, and you don’t owe them anything either.

Once you have accepted this, you’re on the right path to becoming a successful cam model.  

When you’re trying to take the initiative, it all starts with asking the right questions. And in the context of webcamming, the right questions are the ones that take more than a few words to answer. 

Once you have greeted each other with a user, you should never let the conversation die. 

Most models wrongly assume that it’s the user who needs to keep the conversation going, and once they’re done with the initial greetings, they’re expecting the user to carry the conversation.

This is wrong, and it stems from the entitled mindset mentioned earlier. 

Camming is a buyer’s market, and it’s very competitive these days. It’s not the users who compete for the models’ attention, it’s the other way around.

Unless you are a top performer with a large following and tons of viewers in your room at any given time, then you can’t afford to wait on users to carry the conversation.   

So try engaging the user with a question he can’t answer with a few words only, and then hit him with a follow-up question. 

At this point I have to reference what I wrote at the beginning of this guide. DO NOT ask the user about privates or tokens, avoid the subject of money altogether unless it’s the user who brings it up! And even then, consider your answers carefully. 

At one point the user will start asking his own questions, and you will start building some sort of a relationship with him. If you deem a user receptive, communicative, then PM him and continue the conversation under more intimate circumstances. You can PM multiple users at a time, in fact the most successful performers are usually participating in multiple conversations at once via PM.

When you’re having conversations with multiple users at once (while still in free chat), some users will get jealous, and either ask who you’re talking to, leave your room, or take you private to be alone with you. 

If a user gets offended in free chat because you’re interacting with others, and confronts you with the fact, then you can remind him that you are in free chat, and free chat is multi-user. 

This move in itself can pressure a user into spending money on you, because it’s a form of unintentional guilt tripping. At this point the user will either leave your room, accept the fact that he has to wait his turn to get responses from you, or he can decide to buy tokens, and take you private. 

It is possible that you will have to talk to certain users for a long time before they decide to spend money on you. That’s alright, you’re playing the long game here. 

When you have established a certain level of relationship with multiple users, they’ll keep coming back to visit you. There’ll come a time when whenever you go online, more than one of your users will want to spend time with you at the same time.

This may sound a little scary at first, but it’s one of those first world problems, it’s a good problem to have. 

This way your users will be forced to schedule their visits according to your availability.

Once your relationship with a user reaches a certain point, you will feel more relaxed and comfortable talking about certain topics without the threat of losing the guest.

Of course it’s not required to be versed in each and every topic your guests might bring up, but whatever the topic, you should be able to keep the conversation going. 

If you feel like your English is not up to the task, or you’d rather speak about something else, then try and change the topic. 

You should regularly exchange offline messages with your most important members in order to

maintain the continuity of your relationship.

It’s also important to be a great listener, let the user talk sometimes, ask targeted questions, and respond to everything he says.  

Keep notes on your members, memorize their names, their nationalities, their age, family status etc. 

The information you gather about your members will come very handy when you’re trying to structure your thoughts during future interactions.

The aim of all communication involving users is to encourage them to spend money on you. 

But as we have mentioned earlier, you need to do this without users noticing it.  

The way you approach this shares some similarities with the approach members take when they’re trying to pressure you into doing something you’re not willing to do, the main difference is that your approach is not as direct as their approach.  

If you manage to build up a close relationship with your members over time, playing these little games over and over becomes unnecessary. Your members will eventually come to understand that there’s a certain procedure they have to follow should they want to spend time with you, and this includes taking you private/tipping you from time to time.  

There will be days when your members can’t afford to spend money on you, but will visit you regardless. 

It’s extremely important that you treat them the same way as you would on any other day! Because if you don’t, you can easily lose them for good.

Of course you can let them know when you are busy, most of them will understand. 

You’re there to make money after all. But don’t be passive or rude, just tell them that you have a show coming up, and you will be back afterwards. 

Some of them will act entitled though, and will try to guilt trip you when you tell them that you are busy. 

Luckily these users are few and far between, and there’s not a lot you can do to mitigate this, so don’t worry about it. 

Another thing you should be aware of is that some of your regular guests may become accustomed to the idea that you are readily available whenever they desire. 

Consequently, there’s a possibility that they may get bored over time. 

To mitigate this, you’ll need to employ strategies to manipulate and sustain demand.

The simplest way to go about this is to occasionally take a day off and notify those guests in advance who you know typically visit on those days.

In such situations, it’s crucial not to explain to the guest why you won’t be online. The member only needs to see that you’re breaking the usual routine without providing an explanation. It might sound strange, but the aim is to artificially sustain interest. Therefore, later when the member returns, there’s no need to explain yourself. Should a member start asking questions, address such questions with a generic response.

Oh, and make sure that your facial expressions reflect whatever you’re saying!      

⧫ Tips for fetish performers

We understand that many performers choose the fetish route thinking they won’t be required to perform nude shows, or maybe because they don’t feel comfortable competing with nude performers. Perhaps they want a greater degree of control over whatever’s happening in their room. 

As we have touched upon earlier, a great number of erotic models wrongly assume that in order to succeed as a performer, all they ever need to do is connect their Lush toy and lean back comfortably, waiting for the tokens to start flowing. 

Similarly, when it comes to fetish models, the widespread assumption is that sitting around on a fancy throne with a piercing gaze, surrounded by bizarre looking sex toys constitutes a good fetish performer. 

These assumptions couldn’t be any further from the truth. So what constitutes a good fetish model?

First of all, as a fetish performer, you NEED to be comprehensively knowledgeable in the world of fetishism! No two ways about it.

Verbal communication plays a crucial role in the fetish performer’s act. Written communication is not nearly as expressive or effective as spoken communication, especially in this line of work.

It is essential to create and regularly update scripts that address the most common fetish-related scenarios. The scripts themselves don’t need to be overly complicated or lengthy, but they should be modular and easily adaptable.

The most popular subtopics within fetishism include foot fetish, slave/mistress dynamics, sissification, femdom, and findom (financial domination). Make sure that you have at least a couple of scripts covering each of these topics!

You don’t need to memorize these scripts, you can use a teleprompter app during your shows. However, it’s crucial to ensure that your performance comes across as genuine, and that you’re capable of improvising if necessary. Also, be prepared for the possibility that some of your scripts won’t resonate with certain users or in certain situations. When this occurs, you need to be able to transition seamlessly into something else without breaking character or losing integrity or authority.

Expressions and phrases related to fetishism are commonly used in English universally. 

Even if both you and your guest speak another language fluently, there’s no need to worry about translating words and phrases related to the subject into that language.

During fetish oriented shows, the dynamics of communication function completely differently compared to a regular nude show. Many performers fail to understand this, although many members also don’t really grasp it. It’s worth highlighting that unless the user explicitly wants this, attention must be paid to maintaining the balance of reward and punishment. 

For example, during a slave/mistress show, verbal disciplining or punishing of the slave are a must, but rewarding is also necessary.

With that, we have covered the most important aspects of user/model communication. 

In Part III, we’re gonna be discussing yet another exciting topic: cam placement!

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